Over the years, especially as many people move away, get engaged, have kids, or get busy in their own lives…things change. Friendships change. Some people will put in the effort to be there despite the changes, and others will falter.
Which one are you?
Some friendships just grow apart, and that’s ok. Not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime. They do their part in making a presence in your life with some impact.
But what about the ones where one person is putting in all the effort? You’re texting to make plans. You’re calling to catch up on big news. You’re putting your phone down at dinner to have a real conversation. You’re making an effort to keep that friendship a friendship.
The other person? They text when it’s convenient. They pick up almost never and rarely return the call. They reschedule or cancel plans regularly, especially if something better comes up. They never text, call or make plans first. They are the person who thinks of you when they need you or are bored and have nothing better to do.
Who the hell needs a friend like that? Surely not me…and you.
Over the past few years, I’ve encountered a few of these. They say “sorry” or “wow I can’t believe it’s been so long” or “we must do this again, SOON”…but it never changes.
And after a while, just like any relationships…the person who has put in the effort, decides it’s not worth it anymore. It’s not worth the pain, disappointment, and frustration. It’s not worth the friendship.
So instead of accepting the person for who they are, maybe it’s time to let them be who they are, without you.
Dare to give it a shot? You might feel like your shoulders have become lighter, and your heart more open again.
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