…the pitfalls that keep pulling you in, despite the voice in your head to step away. You don’t want to keep repeating the same mistakes. Isn’t there a saying from Albert Einstein stating, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. But why do we do it?
Because we hope (hopelessly) that it’ll turn out different. Because we think we can finally get what we’ve been hoping for. Because we want it so badly.
Sometimes the things we think we want, are what are making us a worse version of ourselves. The better version is waiting down the other road, saying “hey man…hurry the hell up.”
We don’t need that toxic relationship. We don’t need that job which makes us miserable. We don’t need to eat that piece of cake. We don’t need to drink wine to cope with our stress. We definitely don’t need to have sleepless nights trying to achieve things that are not worth our time. Let the toxic out. Don’t go near the quick sand. It WILL pull you in. Whether you believe it or not.
I once was in a toxic situation where the person did not appreciate me fully. I was not considered in decision making, and I was always 4th or 5th on the list of priority. It was toxic and nothing was making it better. But I stayed and tried and tried and tried. I couldn’t get myself out, until he walked away. And truthfully I wanted him to, I just didn’t have it in me to give up. I was addicted to the quicksand. But now, years later, I realize how much happier I am be so far removed, and no longer in touch with that person.
There will be many toxic scenarios in our lives. The best thing we can do is realize it quickly and step around it.
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